What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
Teach your children well. (Photo courtesy of 3j0hn)
Mathew Brady, you can finally enjoy heaven. Your hard work eventually paid off.
Oh, pardon me. Just thought you might want to re-live the wonderfulness of the Phil Donahue “punks” episode from 1984.
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1jN_iuvI2U&feature=relmfu
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxXSTerZGms&feature=relmfu
Part 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JxYebj9nl8c&feature=relmfu
PHIL!
Ivan the Terrible and his Son Ivan, 1885
Ugh, I love this painting so much.
Just some background stuff, Ivan the Terrible was the Tsar of Russia for most of the 16th Century. In I think 1581, he caught his daughter-in-law wearing ‘immodest clothing in front of everyone’ and struck her. She was apparently pregnant and she may or may not have had a miscarriage because of it.
Ivan’s son and the girl’s husband, also named Ivan after his father, hears about it and gets into a really heated argument with his father that ends with Ivan the Terrible taking a swing at his son with his pointed staff. It’s said that he immediately fell down and kissed his son’s face, pressing his hands against his left temple to try to stop the bleeding. He famously screamed “May I be damned! I’ve killed my son! I’ve killed my son!” His son briefly regained consciousness and his last words were “I die as a devoted son and most humble servant.”
I love all the details. I love the pointed staff lying on the ground and the signs of a fight with the tossed over chair, disturbed carpet, and the door wide open. I love the single tear on Ivan’s face and their position on the floor. This is a really gorgeous but raw depiction of one of the darkest moments in an incredible man’s life. I wish there were more historical paintings like this.
Talent and Presenters Announced for the 2012 Comedy Awards!
Along with the previously announced Robin Williams, who will receive the “Stand-Up Icon” award, and Don Rickles, who will be presented with the “Johnny Carson Award for Comedic Excellence” by Jon Stewart, the show will feature presenters Chris Rock, Will Arnett, Tracy Morgan, Maya Rudolph and Adam Scott.
Other guests include Hannibal Buress, Ty Burrell, Louis C.K, Chevy Chase, Paul Feig, Tina Fey, Melissa McCarthy, Wendi McLendon-Covey, Annie Mumolo, Amber Nash, Jim O’Heir, Chris Parnell, Amy Poehler, The Gregory Brothers, Aisha Tyler and Kristen Wiig.
As if that wasn’t enough, Andy Richter will be returning as the show’s announcer, and The Roots will once again perform as the Comedy Awards house band.
More talent will be announced as the ceremony approaches. The second annual Comedy Awards tape in New York this Saturday and air on Comedy Central, Sunday, May 6 at 9/8c.
